I am the youngest child of 3 boys in my family. I always looked up to my brothers. To this day I still do but in a much different way. Now before I lose you this isn’t going to be one of those I had a horrible childhood and while my brothers were outside playing I was stuck inside looking out the window at them while finishing my chores. That’s simply not true. I had a great child hood. Grew up the first part of it in south florida with great friends in a cul-de-sac that I still have great memories of. I just hope that Natalie gets that its ok for her to take the reins and lead.
By now I’m sure you’re well aware I stay home with the girls everyday. I get to watch them soak up everything like a sponge and then when we least expect it they wring it all out like a sponge. It’s awesome to watch. It’s fun to watch miniature versions of you running around all day. Even the bad stuff its fantastic to just think about I helped create that.
Back to my point. The other day I took the girls for a walk before we went to go surprise mom at work. In typical fashion Kendall ran ahead to the lead and Natalie waddled as fast as she could to keep up. Every so often Kendall would turn and say “come on Natalie” and stop for a few seconds for her sister to catch up. While all this was going on of course I got a few pictures to send off to mom so she knows whats going on.
Having two kids close in age has its challenges. I also won’t neglect the fact that it also has a ton of advantages from hand me downs (toys or clothes) to I have not wasted one single diaper so far. While I was looking at the pictures Kendall and Natalie were outside playing and Natty was trying to figure a toy out and I instinctively said “Kendall show your sister how to use her toy”.
That was my ah-ha moment, we always tell Kendall to help or show your sister. We don’t let Nat-Bat figure it out. We don’t allow her to trial and error, we don’t give her the chance to have the independence of I did it all by my self. We don’t let her fail. I’m a huge believer in its ok to fail because you can learn from it. One of my favorite quotes of all time is by Michael Jordan himself.
I understand that I’m not ruining my kid with this (at least I hope not) but it probably isn’t the greatest thing I could be doing for her. I want Natalie to know that its ok if she leads the way, or picks the activity we do next. It’s ok to have your own voice and make your own shadow. Not that I feel like following in Kendall’s shadow is a bad thing, I just know that Natalie could leave behind a pretty badass shadow her self.